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Guilty Feelings

Dear Diana, I am a single mother whom have been off of work for 8months to care for my little son who was born in December.

I am now getting restless from staying home all the time with him so i now deciding to find a part-time job and putting him into day care and i need to know if it's wrong for me to feel this away and if so how can i correct it? Kim.

Hello Kim - your question about feeling restless after 8 months at home with a small baby will strike a chord with many mothers. It is usual to feel totally absorbed by your new baby at the beginning, but as the months progress and you gain confidence in your ability to be a mother, and you get back your sleep and your body (if you have been breastfeeding), you might feel that this is not enough for you, just being a mother.

What you are feeling is totally normal and many thousands of mothers have felt the same. If you are able to find part-time work which you want to do, and have childcare which you can rely on, there is no reason why you should not be a good mother at the same time.

If you decide to return to work, try not to feel guilty about it. If you show your son love and are able to earn some money at the same time, there is nothing wrong with that. There is no need to "correct" your feelings about wanting to work.

There is no right or wrong answer to this - trust yourself that you are doing the best you can for your and your son. I wish you luck. Diana Wolfin

www.changingdirection.com


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